||on behalf of jw
||If you really want to save 3ABN . . .
An open letter to supporters of 3ABN:
I am a lay person who was interviewed on 3ABN in 2006. At
the time, I knew nothing of the troubles plaguing the station,
or I would have seriously reconsidered any involvement or affiliation
with the institution. I also serve on a local Adventist conference
committee and am concerned about our lax or apathetic attitude
when it comes to redeeming erring Christians while holding them
accountable for their actions. Without a miracle from God, I
have serious doubts that Danny, Shelton will ever resign or admit
any wrong doing. Here is why.
I must let you know, I am not a psychologist or mental health
professional. I am, however, recently divorced (1 year) from
a man counselors diagnosed as a narcissist. A true narcissist
will lie as easily as look at you. They are very charismatic,
powerful, men of influence, and are very believable, because
they truly believe their own lies. Masters of manipulation. Counselors
explained to me that narcissists can never be wrong about even
the smallest thing. The most severe cases will die rather than
admit wrong. After reading a letter from the "Doctor" I received
last fall, the similarities between my ex-husband and Danny Shelton
made my skin crawl.
I watched our counselor push my husband on a particular point
to try to make him face a problem. He danced around the issue
for a while, and became more and more agitated until he finally
began shaking and he held his head in his hands and said "Stop,
stop, you're killing me, you're killing me." The counselor told
me later, he backed off because had he continued, it's very possible
he could have had a heart attack or stroke. My husband's mother
actually had a heart attack following an argument with him once,
and she always blamed it on him. It's amazing what runs in families.
(That's also a possible explanation for Tommy Shelton's illnesses
when faced with his wrong doing.)
It is my "unprofessional" opinion that Danny Shelton will
never admit any wrong-doing. Taking him to, court or facing him
with in-your-face, indisputable facts will.never yield an admission,
or an apology, or save 3ABN. He cannot be at fault or he will
die. He needs help he will never get, because he doesn't need
help. Everyone else does. The rules do not apply to.him. This
is a serious illness, and while I have compassion on him (as
I did my ex-husband for 37 years), we must not sacrifice a worldwide
ministry, trying to save him.
God still performs awesome miracles, but He also has specific
instruction we must follow about discipline among the body of
If we really want to save 3-ABN (and we can't afford to wait
much longer), the board will have to fire he & his brother from
their positions. And when they do, it is very possible the lives
of the board will be in danger. After my husband left, my counselors
told me I could never have left him. He would not have allowed
it. He had to call the shots, and of course I wasn't a good wife
so he was forced into the arms of another woman. I was in danger
and didn't know it.
Please . . . Please. Call in mental health professionals and
ask them to evaluate the situation, and then act accordingly.
if they concur, this is no small matter and must not be taken
lightly. If the board removes him, and I believe it is the only
answer, steps should be taken to assure the safety of employees,
board members, and especially Linda.
Thank you for listening, and my prayers are with you.